The angry grandmother stormed across the parking lot of the abortion center. She screeched to a halt in front of the new Cities4life volunteer who was offering resources and help so that her daughter did not need to feel abortion was her only option.
“How can you help?”she asked, stabbing an accusing finger at the volunteer. A few colorful words were tossed out to punctuate her query.
I knew our volunteer did not yet have the experience to field that question, and the grandmother was clearly angry, so I hurried over.
“Let me tell you how we can help…” I said.
I began to list our resources. “We have free ultrasound and pregnancy tests, baby showers that provide the first two full years of things the child will need…”
“You mean help them go on social services. Why don’t you all help all the kids who no one wants…”
She was on a roll of venomous anger and I could not even keep up with all her accusations. I asked if she wanted to hear the answer to the question she originally asked. How could we help?
She said she did. But as soon as I resumed listing our resources, she interrupted, asking if I planned to adopt the child. I told her that her question really did not appear to be our ability to help her overcome the obstacles she faced but to validate that killing an innocent, living human being was okay.
She protested the fact of the baby being alive. I told her it had a heart beat.
“How can something the size of a f***ing olive have a heart beat???”she screamed.
“The heart is beating as early as 17 days after conception.” I showed her a video of an actual 5 week old baby in the womb, the heart visibly beating. She watched in silence.
I asked if she believed in God, and she said she did. She also said that God says: do not judge. According to the angry grandmother, I had no right to judge that her daughter killing her grandchild was right or wrong. I told her the Bible says we are to judge, but to judge with righteousness.
“And what gives you the ability to judge with righteousness?”she asked, her finger jabbing close to my face.
“If I know Jesus as my lord and savior, then I can judge with His righteousness. He makes it clear in His word that the shedding of innocent blood is wrong. I can judge with righteous judgment that the taking of innocent life is wrong.”
As the conversation progressed, I learned the angry grandmother had an abortion when she was seventeen years old. She said it was okay because God forgave her, and it was the right decision. She did not regret it. And now, it was the right decision for her daughter to kill her grandchild because otherwise her life would stop. After she aborted, she would ask God to forgive her, and He would, because he was a forgiving God.
I asked her if her husband said he wanted to have an affair, would that be okay? What if he told her not to worry- he loved her- and would return to her afterwards. He knew she would forgive him and it would all be okay since he knew she was a forgiving woman.
“That’s different,” she said, “That’s about a relationship…”
“Do you have a relationship with God?” I asked.
Then she stormed away, telling me to kiss her in a most undesirable place. She also called me a few juicy names.
But I told her I would pray for her, and for her daughter. I prayed her daughter would choose life and if she did, we would help her.
The sins of the parents passed on to a new generation. An abortion was justified, rationalized, and even glorified in the grandmother’s eyes. The daughter appeared to be following the same pattern of sex outside of marriage, unplanned pregnancy, quick “solution” of abortion, and then ask God to forgive the willful defiance of His commands. There was no apparent recognition of the sin of abortion, nor sorrow over transgression of God’s law: thou shall not murder.
Cities4Life counselors seek to break the cycle of generational sin. I don’t know if my words fell on deaf ears, or if perhaps, the angry grandmother went home and for the first time in thirty years wept for the child she had destroyed. Repentance is the first honest step to receiving forgiveness.
It is not easy to urge people bent on destruction to turn to a path of life. But God’s word is clear. We are to strive to turn people from their sin, and by so doing, perhaps save their eternal soul.
My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring that person back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins.James 5:19
As you can imagine the work of a sidewalk counselor isn’t easy. God graciously allows us to see the fruit of our labors on a regular basis but there are times we leave wondering if we accomplished much that day. However we know the result are up to the Lord and it’s our responsibility to speak His truth no matter what the results may be.
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