What Would You Say To Carmen?


sad-woman_t580Cities4Life wants to provide web-based, sidewalk counseling tips and training through the “What Would You Say?” posts. Not only is this good practice for thinking on your feet during everyday encounters you might have with people who oppose your worldview, but it is also good training for those who want to do Frontline Ministry outside of abortion mills. And remember, scripture addresses the root of these issues. Let’s look at a common scenario together and some ways to address this common objection.

What would you say to Carmen?

Patte Smith, a friend of Cities4Life and sidewalk counselor in Raleigh, NC, recently posted on her Facebook a common objection that many of us hear at the abortion mills when trying to encourage a mom to chose life for her baby. We have all heard this said before: “I’ll just pray a prayer or ask forgiveness or go to church after I’m finished with the abortion and things will be okay”. What would you say to Carmen in this situation? Patte provided some insights and Scriptures that we can use in this common scenario that she has used over the years as a sidewalk counselor. These would be good to mark in your Bible for this very situation.

Start With Scripture

When a mother says that she will just pray & ask forgiveness/repent after she murders her baby by abortion, Patte and her team tell her what the Bible says:

“If one turns away his ear from hearing the Law, even his prayer is an abomination.” – Proverbs 28:9

“If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened” – Psalm 66:18

We ask the aborting mom:

“If God doesn’t LISTEN to you, and considers your prayer an “abomination”, do you really expect Him to hear your prayer of so-called repentance?”

“When He is tried, let him be found guilty, and may his prayers condemn him.” -Psalm 109:7

He has commanded mankind: ‘To fear the Lord—that is wisdom; to move away from evil—that is understanding.’ – Job 28:28

Biblical Repentance

As Patte pointed out with the use of the Scriptures, the problem here is the lack of understanding of what true biblical repentance is. Jesus did not die such a gruesome death, bearing the wrath of God for our sins for the sake of us to casually and deliberately walk in sin. He died to free us from the bondage of sin because we were helpless and could not free ourselves. The fact that these young ladies acknowledge that they will need forgiveness for going through with the abortion demonstrates that they know that it is wrong and violates God’s Word, yet they are content to use the grace of God to justify the abortion. In addition to quoting God’s Word, these are some things that we can maybe ask the young lady to get her to think about what she is about to do in light of her unbiblical view of repentance:

“Since you say that you are going to ask for forgiveness for this abortion, does that mean that you acknowledge that this is wrong and a sin against God?”

“What is your understanding of forgiveness and grace? Do you have Scripture to support that?”

“Why should God forgive you if you are going into this knowing and understanding that what you are about to do is wrong and goes against what He has clearly commanded?”

“I understand that you think that everything will be ok after your abortion and that God will forgive you, but sin has dreadful and sometimes life-long consequences. Have you thought about that?”

“Once you have the abortion, your baby is dead and there is no bringing him or her back no matter how much you pray to God or go to church.”

“We are here today because God sent us. He does not want you to kill your baby today. You can change your mind and not have to deal with having to try to make everything ok afterwards. He loves you and your child. Do what you know is the right thing to do.”

Share Your Thoughts

If you have other thoughts or responses that you would pose to  Carmen, feel free to contribute by posting in the comments section. We desire that these tips and “talking points” be used to help all of us in this endeavor to save lives and to spread the truth of the Gospel.

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